Are you the father you wish you had?
Are you the father you wish you had?
How would you describe the ideal father?
1. kind
2. compassionate
3. strong
4. loving
5. encouraging
6. fair
7. righteous
8. protecting
9. honest
10. merciful
11. fun
Followup question: How would you describe God?
1. Holy
2. merciful
3. loving
4. just
5. fair
6. provider
7. sustainer
8. kind
9. gracious
10. perfect
I look at how I would have described my ideal father and I'm not making the grade, I'm failing. Dear God, I so need your help to be a good and Godly father to those boys you've entrusted me with. Please change my heart and fill me to overflowing with your love and your Spirit. Please.....
I ask in the name of the Lord Jesus, amen.
If you had a good father, praise the Lord for him but if you did not, how do you keep from repeating the same mistakes that were modeled in your life?
Colossians 3:21 (Amplified Bible)
21Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or fret your children [do not be hard on them or harass them], lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated. [Do not break their spirit.]
Pray for me that I would be the man, husband, father that I need to be and that God would have for me to be. Thank you.
posted by Just Kurios @ 9:53 AM
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3 Comments:
If you had a good father, praise the Lord for him but if you did not, how do you keep from repeating the same mistakes that were modeled in your life?
Hey! I like the blog name, pretty clever.
My dad was miserable and I was afraid to have children because I was certain that I would be a horrible father - either by repeating my father's mistakes, or by swinging the pendulum way around to the other side, and making the opposite mistakes.
One day however I was on my bed, reading the word, and I became convicted that my father was a sinner just as I was a sinner. It seemed the very definition of hypocricy for me to blame him for everything that was wrong in my life - he had no more choice in being a sinner than I did. So I forgave him.
I didn't really think much of it, but I was sincere in my forgiveness.
The next morning I woke up and the world was entirely different. A burder of hate and gloom that I hadn't ever known was there had been lifted - and only by its absense did I ever realize it was there.
If we are genuine in our walk with our Lord, that is, if we surrender control of our life with all our heart (as opposed to simply an intellectual decision that we ignore when it suits us), we will do well.
Kids are very easy to love once you spend time with them. The enemy must know this as we have television, internet, video games etc. all designed (it seems) to replace that bonding time.
I love my kids like crazy and we have such a wonderful relationship. I would expect that anyone willing to invest in God (and you seem to be of this variety) will not visit the parenting they received upon their own children.
I have prayed every night over my children since they have been born. Each night my prayer is a variation upon one theme - make me a better Christian so that I will be a better father.
Grace and Peace.
Thanks...for the compliment, advice, and encouragement.
I don't feel that I blame my father for the bad personality traits in my life, though I wish I had had a better role model but it is very possible I harbor resentment toward him that I need to deal with.
I would very much like to surrender control of my life to the Lord but really struggle with how to go about it. I say it, pray it and think it but it doesn't seem to impact my heart and life. How do you go about living out surrender?
I do need to spend more quality time with my kids and let go of my unrealistic expectations for them.
Thanks,
There is a free online book called "A Christianity that really works" by a fellow named Ron Marr. You have not heard of him because he doesn't market himself.
The book can be downloaded here and it is a step by step "how to" manual that is perhaps the single most effective and down to earth book I have yet to read.
You will cherish it, because it will answer these sorts of questions.
Let me know if it is right for you.
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